I’ve always thought that love is good...
The experts say that we all have a love language, and that each of us wants to be loved. A smile. A hug. A heart-to-heart chat. These are good. But, there are also broken languages of love…
Some think that love will only come through manipulation: 
“If you love me, you will do what I want.” Others think it will come when they are worshipped: “If you love me, you will put me first in your life.” Should we risk it and fulfill their demands?
I have learned the hard way that it isn’t a good idea. It develops a toxic kind of love where both are destroyed and hurt… Only God can satisfy our deepest heart. Let’s point those we love to him.
Eva,
You are absolutely right, it is not healthy not acquiesce to these kinds of demands. I would even go a step further and say that what you’re describing isn’t love at all – it’s control. There’s something I’ve learned about that too – you cannot both love someone and try to control them, they are mutually exclusive. In addition, if you take a quick audit of your life, you will find that the people you know who are the most loving are the least controlling & manipulative. Conversely, the people that are most difficult to get along with, anger you the most, and cause the most trouble, are also the most controlling & manipulative. Control & manipulation should be confronted every time they are attempted. Jesus did this repeatedly. Every time the Pharisees tried to come and “trap him” (a nice euphemism for control & manipulation) he turned the tables on them every time never once acquiescing to their attempt at manipulation & control.
Thanks, Jeremy. Really well put. Oh for the continued strength to stand as Jesus did.