Toxic love

I’ve always thought that love is good...

The experts say that we all have a love language, and that each of us wants to be loved. A smile. A hug. A heart-to-heart chat. These are good. But, there are also broken languages of love…

Some think that love will only come through manipulation: “If you love me, you will do what I want.” Others think it will come when they are worshipped: “If you love me, you will put me first in your life.” Should we risk it and fulfill their demands?

I have learned the hard way that it isn’t a good idea. It develops a toxic kind of love where both are destroyed and hurt… Only God can satisfy our deepest heart. Let’s point those we love to him.

Caught in the wrong kind of love

If someone we love keeps on hurting us, why do we still love them? It’s crazy! We think, “Oh, it was only a one off. They will change.” But then they keep walking all over us, and we still find an excuse to let them off.

Some people call it true love, but it isn’t. Love isn’t a doormat. It isn’t nice. It doesn’t pretend everything is alright.

God gives us his definition of love, and there is nothing nice about it. “This is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” (I John 4:10) Love dares to be true. It dares to say, “Hey, you got it wrong! I’m giving you a chance to come right.”