She went the wrong way, but it was right…

The other day, I stood at the bus stop, waiting. A car pulled up. The window rolled down. I groaned. Someone was going to ask me for directions, and I hoped I could send them in more or less the right way. Two friends grinned back instead.

I waved, relieved. ‘Are you going into town?’ the driver called.

‘I am.’

‘Hop in. We’re going that way.’

The passenger blinked. ‘Are we?’ she said, in that tone of someone discovering her life plan had just been altered.

I pointed up the road. ‘The bus will be here in a minute.’

‘I know,’ said the driver. ‘We passed it. Hop in.’

So, I climbed in back, knowing they were headed in the wrong direction, and this time it wasn’t my fault. But as we sat and chatted, something important came up. Someone we all knew needed our support.

That fifteen-minute trip was just enough time. We came up with a plan. We would help this person in whatever way we could.

As my friends dropped me off and drove away, I wondered if they would make it back. They just might collect another waif. I marvelled at this driver who followed another kind of map, not based on location, but on her heart. I marvelled at the passenger, who embraced the adventure and laughed.

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(adapted from an article and a talk I gave earlier this month)

‘It wasn’t your fault.’

Sometimes people tell us, ‘It wasn’t your fault,’ especially when we struggle with our past. But we might push them away, for they obviously don’t know what went on.

But often those on the outside can see our lives better. They hear our stories and the guilt we have assumed. They see how we were made to feel responsible. We feel guilty for things we never did.

It takes a journey to move from shame to freedom. It takes accepting the invitation our friends have extended. For they long to see us living OUR lives and leaving behind the lies.

‘It wasn’t your fault,’ are releasing words. We can move on.

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We can see…

In the beginning, God was there in the darkness and confusion. But then he spoke, ‘Light, come!’ And what he set in motion still is.

Each of us had a beginning and it was in darkness. But then in our births we came into light. God set us in motion and we still are. Yet, he wants to speak again today, as we experience other darknesses and confusions. He says, ‘Light, come!’

He sets in motion something new, if only we could stop and look – a scary new path, a unexpected opportunity, or an undiscovered talent we never knew we had. And if we walk in what we see, we can share that light with others. For, beginnings are a gift we can accept and give.

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Friends, Failure and that DAH Moment

Maybe this is your story as well… I grew up having to be ‘perfect’, to be intuitive and figure out how to please. So for me, failure causes intense agony, even now.

But it took me a while to realise that those who demanded my perfection never lifted a finger to help. And those who pointed out my failures didn’t actually care for my success. Was there a way out?

Slowly, I learned that, ‘Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up’ (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

My true friends are those who help me be my best, and who let me do the same. DAH!

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